10 Tips to Boost Self Confidence

(Last Updated On: August 1, 2019)

There have been many self-help courses and books written on how to improve your self-confidence. Some books are best-sellers and some are flops. But it is not necessarily the contents of the material that make it sell or not sell. It is people lacking self-confidence that buy these materials because they are looking for ways to increase their self-confidence. So people who buy the books will make them bestsellers. Having low-confidence can be one of the most destructive mindsets to hamper a human being. In this article, we will share some basic ways to help people to improve their self-confidence.

We must remember that people do not choose to have low self-confidence and everyone in this world wants to have a strong self-image. It takes people years maybe sometimes months to develop a low self-image and the more they have been criticized or rejected they will be hurt more. Sometimes they can be hurt so deeply they may not be aware of the depth of their lack of confidence. But people who lack self-confidence may have had years of rejection and negative comments spoken over them. They may have been rejected by childhood friends or family members or by online customers. They could have been rejected by a marriage spouse or by someone in a relationship.

But it is not hopeless because these people can change their thinking and develop a very positive self-image but how far they progress is up to them and they can either succeed or fail depending on how they commit to their healing. No one can change that person but that person himself so let us get into the methods.

1. You Can Be Who You Want to Be

Tips to Boost Self Confidence

As the author on this website commented “Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. If someone seems to have incredible self-confidence, it’s because he or she has worked on building it for years. Self-confidence is something that you learn to build up because the challenging world of business, and life in general, can deflate it.”

The key to success in this step is to visualize what and where you want to be and who you want to be. You need to replace negative self images with positive self-images. The negative self-images that formed the lack of confidence must be replaced with positive images to build the person’s self-confidence back up. It took years to develop the negative self-image it will take time to build up the positive self-image but it will happen.

The person will develop a positive self-image and they will build their confidence back up. With the right visualization methods, the person can build up their self-confidence. They just need to picture themselves as being healed and whole. They must learn to respect themselves and to visualize themselves as having something to offer the world. People will be attracted to them as they increase in confidence. The person must learn to delete the negative images of themselves and replace them with positive and uplifting images. Even if they need to change their relationships to achieve these ends then this is what they must do. The person must visualize an image of themselves that pleases them. An image they can be and feel good about.

2. Affirm Who You Are

People with a low self-image will act according to that self-image but if they want to change their self-image they must begin to affirm themselves by talking positively about themselves. They must talk out loud so they can hear the talk coming out of their mouths. We will believe what we say to ourselves if we say it constantly. Let’s say you have a low perception of the way you look or of your intelligence.

Then go look in the mirror and look at yourself and tell yourself that you are good-looking. Say this every day over and over again and you will believe that you are good-looking. Then or at the same time tell yourself you are intelligent and say this over and over again and you will believe you are intelligent. You will find your confidence increasing in the areas of your looks and intelligence.

You will find that you will be doing things that you have never done before. Like trying new things that take mental skill to achieve and you will start talking to people who you would not have talked to before. You wouldn’t talk to them because you thought you were too ugly to talk to them. Now, that you convinced yourself that you are not ugly you will go talk to that person. Maybe you will even go ask that girl out for a date that you have been wanting to for years. She will say yes!

You will get that engineering degree now that you have been putting off for years because you thought you were not smart enough to get the degree. You know you are smart so you will go apply for college and take those courses and get your engineering degree. Frame your affirmation in the form of a question instead of a statement. So instead of saying “I am so good at making business deals.” say “Why am I so good at making business deals?” The brain seeks answers by asking questions this is the way the brain is wired. So the brain will answer the question of why you are so good at making business deals. This will improve your self-awareness.

3. Face Daily Fright Head On

The best thing you can do to boost your self-confidence is to face a fear that plagues you every day. Step out of your fear zone and face one of your deep-rooted fears face-to-face. Let’s say you are afraid of heights, for instance, face it. Get your ladder out of the garage and climb to the top rung and step on your roof. Walk around your roof and look down to the ground a few times. Do this until you are confident you are no longer afraid of heights. You will see a change in your perception of heights change. You will exude self-confidence as you have overcome your fear of heights.

You love to go hiking or mountain climbing but you have not been able to because you were afraid of heights. But guess what? You are no longer afraid of heights because you just changed your way of thinking about being afraid of heights. Now, you can go hiking and mountain climbing. You can overcome your lack of self-confidence by facing your fears and changing your way of thinking.

4. Your Inner Critic does not Have the Last Word

If you have low-confidence then you have what is called an inner critic or inner voice. This is where you talk to yourself. Anyway, if you lack confidence then your inner critic will be overactive and aggressive and will be your worst critic. You are your worst critic but that inner critic can be silenced if you want it to.

Another trait of a person suffering from low-confidence is their inner critic will be distorted and inaccurate. You will constantly be criticizing yourself constantly telling yourself you are a failure and you cannot do anything right. But this can all change and you are the only one that can change yourself. You cannot listen and buy into what the inner critic is spouting.

There is a therapy called cognitive behavioral therapy which teaches you to question your inner critic. It will teach you to support or deny what the inner critic is saying. For example, your inner critic is telling you loud and clear that you are a failure but can that statement be supported. You ask the inner critic what proof is there that you are a failure? Or what proof is there that I am not a failure.

Think about your past life and remember all the mistakes you made but remember they were mistakes and they do not define who you are. You are not a failure because you made some mistakes. Your value as a person is not based on if you made mistakes but it is made on who you are.

You are not a failure because you made mistakes. Everyone in the world makes mistakes but that does not make them failures either. So, knock down that theory that you are a failure because you made a mistake.

Now, prove to your inner critic that you are not a failure. Just who you are makes you a success but you can think about all the things you have accomplished and bolster your self-confidence. Retrain your mind and your inner critic to tell you that you are not a failure but you are successful. This will make your self-confidence shoot through the roof. Every chance you get compliment yourself on a good deed or a success you accomplished. Your low self-confidence will be gone before you know it all.

5. 100-Day Fear Breaker

Jia Jiang started the 100-day fear breaker therapy and now he is a much sought after speaker because other fear bound people to want to hear how to be free from fear. He was riveted with fear after he was rejected by a potential investor. He hit his threshold and decided it was time to stop the fear. So, for 100 days he asked people ridiculous requests so he became desensitized to rejection. He is now free of the fear of rejection and he is teaching other people to become free of rejection as well. Give this 100-day fear a try for your fear of rejection and in 100 days you will no longer be bound to the fear of rejection.

6. Win and Win Again

Get rid of the losing mentality and allow yourself to win on a daily basis. Tell yourself that you are a winner and you will begin to win all the time. You tell yourself that you are a winner and you will turn into a winner because you will gain the confidence to become a winner. Change the record and self talk start talking like a winner and not a loser.

Start telling yourself you can win at life. Next, do not set goals that are impossible to reach. Set goals that you can reach take one step at a time and set small and realistic goals you can reach. People develop a low-self esteem because they set goals that they cannot reach. So set realistic goals that you can achieve and you will become successful. And you will develop a successful mindset that will increase your confidence.

You will achieve small steps which will help you to build up a stream of successes that will build up your confidence. Then when you succeed at a bunch of small steps then you can move to harder goals and achieve those goals. This will solidify your confidence that much more. Keep a list of your accomplishments and look at them from time to time. Celebrate those victories and this will build your confidence. Focus on the positives, not the negatives.

7. Look for others to Help

Look for other people you can help. Mentor or counsel someone. Go repair a house for someone or just be a friend to a lonely person. You will see how fortunate you are and it will help you feel better about yourself. Y ou will sense your confidence growing as you help other people. You see it well get you to focus on others and not your lack of self-confidence.

One way to really see your confidence grow is by investing your talents in someone else. Before you know it you will be walking on top of the world.

8. Take Care of Self

People who lack self confidence tend to feel so bad about themselves they will not take care of themselves. They do not feel worthy that they should take care of themselves. So, take care of your mental, physical, and social health. Get out there and exercise and eat healthy foods. Hang around healthy people who have high levels of confidence. Before you know it you will feel good enough about yourself that you will take care of yourself. You will feel so confident about yourself that you will gladly take care of yourself. You can also dress the way you want to feel so go out and but yourself a nice suit of clothes. Spend some money on yourself because you are worth it.

Once you start taking care of yourself you will experience real confidence growth. Other people will notice you taking care of yourself and they will begin to notice how confident you are. They will see that you have a healthy self-respect for yourself. It will get the point that people will begin to ask you how you gained so much confidence in yourself. You can share your winning tips with them and these words coming out of your mouth will build your confidence. You will reflect where you came from and where you are now. You will have hope for the future.

9. Set those Boundaries

Tips to Boost Self Confidence

Learn to tell people that no because it is not okay to touch me like that or to treat me like that. You will not talk to me that way either. Be assertive–even if you have to take classes–and learn to speak your wants and desires. Learn to ask for what you want and stand your ground until you get it. This will teach you to take care of yourself and you will grow in self-confidence.

Set boundaries for yourself and those people around you. They will begin to respect you as well. This will increase your confidence as well. You will develop a real solid self-confidence.

10. Develop a healthy mindset

You are just as worthy as any person on the planet and do not ever think you are lower than anyone else. No other person is more worthy or deserving in life than you are. Do not look at yourself and say you wish you are someone else. Do not hate yourself and you must begin to say I am as worthy as anyone else. People with low self-confidence will always compare themselves to those around themselves and they come up short.

Develop a balanced mindset and tell yourself you are a human being full of dignity and you are just as worthy as they are to receive the good things in life. If you focus on your strengths and good points your self-confidence will soar. You are a unique person specially created the way you are. You can provide the world with gifts that no one else can.

Train your mind to love yourself and you will be able to love other people easier and your self-confidence will take off before you know it.

Conclusion:

We have shared with you 10 sure ways to improve your self-confidence and improve your mental health. You can make yourself one less human being on the planet who suffers from a lack of self-confidence. You will improve your self-image and confidence and you will enjoy your life so much. Others will enjoy being around you as well.

Written by Irina Radosevic MD
Irina graduated from the University of Belgrade, School of Medicine as a Doctor of Medicine (MD) and spent over 3 years working in the Clinical Hospital Center Zvezdara, in the Department of Emergency Medicine. She also undertook a postgraduate in Cardiology from the same University and had previously worked for over a year as a Physician and Nutritionist Dietitian for the Fitness club Green Zone. She eventually left her chaotic but fulfilling job in the ER to pursue her passion of writing, travelling and mountain climbing which has included writing a first aid course for the alpine club of Belgrade. Irina currently works as a VA for PintMedia focusing on medical and travel writing. Feel free to connect with Irina on LinkedIn and FaceBook. Her CV can be seen here.